Why do Men and Boys need help…?

Historically, our society has abandoned us in an essential area of life…

Although things have got a little better in recent decades for us males in this culture, we can still struggle to understand and manage our feelings. 

Emotions from old hurts that are not being dealt with – felt, expressed, communicated and resolved – have a way of leaking out and affecting our lives in all sorts of ways, in anger or anxiety, irrational behaviour, addictions, and in the longer-term, directly or indirectly, damage to our health…

For many of us who have grown up male in British society, the only feeling that has been acceptable to show is anger; other emotional expression has been mostly off-limits. So sometimes all sorts of feelings – pain, grief, sadness, frustration, disappointment and fear – result in just frustration and angry reactions.

For others, even anger was not permissible…

Mostly, we don’t have much experience with making sense of feelings – ours or others’. We often lack an outlet to help us deal with our emotions. And if we get no opportunity to talk about them to anyone, we never learn a language to understand or express them. It can get so bad we end up not even knowing how we feel – all we know is we feel ‘bad’.

Often, our true feelings become so unbearable and squashed that we bury them and just feel numb. Sadly, this means we may end up not feeling the good stuff as well as the bad, leaving life feeling empty, joyless and devoid of fun – we feel only half alive.

I don’t have any gimmicks or shortcuts, I’m afraid – it’s about getting to know who you really are and growing to be a fully functioning human being again. But that is a worthwhile and incredible process, and you certainly deserve it. if you would like to explore your feelings and are looking for an experienced and supportive guide, get in touch.